I especially think it is a valid point that, when we intend good and fail to follow through, it is often because there is a missing emotional connection between the intention and the action. An easy place to see this concept is the fitness/weight loss battle. We ALL know we should refrain from consuming chocolate by the pound and exercise 30+ minutes a day, 6 days a week, etc. But what is the difference between those who actually do these good things, and those who only talk about it? I guess we have all been both kinds of person, at one point or another. This week I have been trying to test Dr. Needleman’s thesis in my exercise routine. When my alarm goes off at 5 a.m. and my mind tells me it’s time to pull on my swimsuit and head for the pool, I’ve found that this is much less of a struggle if I consciously (try to) flip on the emotional switch as well as the mental switch. Surprisingly, this actually works. If I hit the snooze and lie in bed weighing the pros and cons of getting up that particular morning – on a mental/intellectual level – mostly the argument for sleep will win out. But, in those critical moments of decision, if I want to want to get up . . . I’ll get up.
This is just my tiny individual battle. But how interesting if these practices of engaging the “heart” could be translated into humans’ collective battle for peace and justice. In the Israeli-Palestinian conflict, for example – instead of focusing on the endless peace negotiations, what would happen if everyone on all sides truly felt that they wanted peace above all else? That is (to use Needleman terminology), what if the whole collective body of Israelis and Palestinians – lawmakers, diplomats, soldiers, voters – desired peace with their hearts as well as their minds?
I’m only about halfway through Why Can’t We Be Good?, and no doubt I am butchering the author’s fairly elegant arguments with my paraphrasing. I’ll try to check back in later to flesh out some of these ideas more fully. Meanwhile, if you are looking for a good summer read, I recommend the book.

